“Signs of an Abusive relationship”
When or if YOU should ever intervene ??? 🤔
Hello to all who decided to stop in and Read my Story, 😄 thank you today I want to discuss a topic that’s very sensitive, and Controversial. “Abusive relationships” !! Let’s face it, most of us have known of a couple in which either one or both of the people in it were abusive. And I’ll even go a step further and say that, quite a few of ”US” have actually experienced an Abusive relationship Personally. Unfortunately and fortunately, I’ve been subjected to “Domestic abuse” myself.
The Unfortunate side of being in an Abusive relationship is of course the “Obvious”, first of all it’s very painful, second of all it’s the ultimate betrayal,and it’s humiliating to say the least.having to lie, and cover up “Or should i say, try to cover up”, the fact that you’re being abused. Also make no mistake about it, “Verbal abuse IS, abuse. That’s called Emotional abuse, for those of you who haven’t experienced abuse.
Emotional, verbal abuse sometimes it takes someone time to realize that, they’re actually being Abused, mistreated. Especially if you’ve never encountered such behavior. People sometimes simply tell themselves that, their mate has bad manners,and that they sometimes lose their head, and of course they didn’t mean what they said. That may be the case however, if it’s a “Reoccurring event, then you’ve got yourself a problem.” Let me clarify something here, I’m able to speak on this matter because, I’ve been through not one but two, Abusive marriages, and have actually had “Professional Counseling” therefore this is how I’m able to speak to you all here, on this matter !!
You see abuse isn’t always when there is physical contact between two people, it most always starts out, with verbal abuse, sometimes the abuser is very Dominating/ Controlling. Also he or she may want to isolate you from your, Family and friends. these are all signs of being in an Abusive relationship.sometimes the abuser will “Stonewall you” ( give you the silent treatment). Another thing,the Problems the two of you are having, is “Always YOUR fault” these people Never take responsibility for anything.
Perfect example of “Stonewalling”, Silent treatment here in this photo.
Ok now here’s the “ Big question” , at what point is it ok to, “Intervene” when you suspect that someone you know, (perhaps a Family member, close friend) is being Abused ?? 😱better yet, is it actually Ok to intervene ?? 🤔 That is sometimes a very, very hard decision to make. Here’s why, even though you feel as though you’re showing concern for that person, they may feel as though, “You’re meddling in their affairs”, also they may very well feel as though they’re NOT, ready nor willing to leave the abuser, nor are They ready to seek Counseling.
Also as you can see here, men can be “ Abused as well”. It is not just something that women experience.
One of the biggest problems with getting involved is this, “The person that’s being abused may actually “Turn on YOU, and decide to end the relationship with YOU, because if they feel you’re a threat to their relationship, you may have to be “Sacrificed”, in order for that person to maintain whatever relationship they have with their abuser. So ask yourselves, if you’re willing ,or ready for that to happen.??
Right not I’m in that situation with someone I care about, I’m trying to decide if I’ll approach them and express my Concerns !! 😑 I’ve decided to “Send them a copy of this Story that I’ve written”, and hope that they “Connect the dots” ??. This way they can reflect on their situation and Come to me, of their own free will if they so choose to. however if things escalate and, I start to notice the unimaginable happening (Signs of physical abuse) then I’ll have a dilemma on my hands and I’ll, have to “Pray on the matter” because I don’t want to lose the relationship with this person however, “I don’t want to lose this person, to Abuse either” 😑
First comes the “Power struggle”
When that doesn’t work, then the “Physical intimidating occurs”
There is “Help Available”, before things get out of Control. Listen if you suspect your loved ones of being abused, Or maybe they’re the actual “Abuser themselves”, and you don’t Know how to approach Him, or Her. “You can Send them a Copy of this Story, that way you’re giving them the chance to maybe “See themselves in my story”, and Connect the dots ,on their own.??if not then, “You’ll have a tough decision to make, whatever you do, just make sure that “You’re making that decision, Out of Love 😄😇
Remember, there is Help Available.
