“Friends forever or Until you have a Crisis”

Hello, I’m going to write about, that thing called, “Fair weather” friendship, or which isn’t really a friendship….at all !

Take a good look at this picture this is so Adorable this is an actual true friendship…these two animals, have absolutely nothing in common, in fact they could actually be enemies. However, this is what “True friendship” is all about. This is Unconditional friendship. This picture says everything.

Helping One Another

Animals Need help too !

Coming together at critical times

We’re all in this World together

Folks in everyday life people in communities come together when there’s a Crisis. Also on a daily basis. these are pictures of people who are strangers, that are brought together, thru certain natural storms, also there’s people simply being helpful to the elderly and children, animals you get the general idea right ? These are kind and good people helping in their community, however that is not what a “Friendship means” ………

This is another example of a “True friendship” A man and his Dog ! this Dog would probably Die in order to, save his Master. I’m quite sure, this man would do everything he can, to protect his Dog as well……………

On June 26th ,2012 I suffered a terrible Loss !!! I felt as though this was me. My Son Brandon was three months into his 30th year and was taken away,or shall I say, The Lord felt that it was time for Brandon to return .😇😔

“This picture says it all “

I found out who my “True friends really were, also I realized who in my “Family”, really cared for me and my son Brandon. It was very hard realizing that , the family I thought I had , was not there for me at the Time I needed them them the most!

Also, the friends I thought would stand by my side during this time did not !! For whatever reason they could not, or would not stand by my side, it was really a crushing experience. I’d suffered what is the absolute worse thing a “Parent” can experience and I was literally abandoned, by certain close family members, and supposed close friends. Therefore I experienced another “Loss”, in addition to the Loss of Brandon. Certain family members actually were “Mad at me because, they wanted to tell me how to “Lay MY son to rest”!!! I realized that they took my tragedy, and somehow made it about them !!!

When I wouldn’t allow them to decide how to “Lay Brandon to rest”, they actually fell out with me, and quit “Speaking to me”. Keep in mind that, this all took place before My Son was “Laid to rest”. I felt then and now that, I have some of the worse family ( if you will) on this planet. I still can’t wrap my head around what happened??

I heard everything from, “ You have another Child to,” he’s in a better place, to” Life goes on”, “don’t dwell on this pain you’re feeling, for too long”, etc etc. You’re getting the picture im sure. Keep in mind that, none of the people giving me this advice, had lost a Child. !! I Simply decided that, this obviously was ignorance talking.

Then I experienced the “Ultimate let down, cop out” I had at least 3 family members who believe it or not, actually Avoided me all together and never even, gave me a phone call !! , Offering their condolences.!!! To this very day they haven’t. Two of them I’ve actually come in contact with since, and still, no mention….. it’s ok at least I know, who they really are.

Meanwhile the people at my Job was Absolutely Wonderful during this time. My Manager told me to take all the time I needed ,and my job would be there when I’m ready to return. “God bless her”, also there was a “Earth Angel” that I’d only known from working with her, she stepped up and she befriended me, in a big way !! She was literally there for me to laugh with, cry with, to sit and just listen to me , or just be with me in silence. I Love this lady… her name is “Elaine”. If you read this Ms. Elaine, I want to say “Thank you, from me and I’m sure Brandon would want me to, thank you on his behalf !! Elaine, I feel was sent to me, from the Lord. She probably saved my life !!! I only hope one day I’ll get a chance to see her again and help her, somehow.

I want to say that, even though I was deeply hurt by being let down by my “Family”, and some supposed “close friends” that, its ok I realize now, and anyone reading this, that’s been let down at their critical time in life, this is a blessing because, once everything was all said and done, and the dust settled!! I had a clear understanding of who the “Fake friends and family members were”, and for that I’m greatful.

I’m sharing my fair weather friend/ family story, so that others can realize the difference between a true friend and a fair weather friend / family, “True friends don’t leave when the bottom fall out, a true friend will, stay and help you find a way to, “Put the bottom back under your feet”, if they fall away when your bottom goes from underneath you, then when you rebuild your bottom, (Support) you make sure you don’t invite them back to stand on your floor !! Don’t be vengeful, nor cruel, just give your time and Love, to someone else that can deserve it.!! Also “Pray for those who abandoned you, because one day they’ll have a Crisis too, if they live long enough, and then they’ll experience what it’s like, to be let down.!!

I’ll leave you with this picture

Remember you are not Alone !